Category: Thursday Thoughts

  • What really gets you frustrated?

    What really gets you frustrated?

    What really gets you frustrated?  Who frustrates you? I am intrigued by the varied responses to these two questions.  There seem to me to be three concepts that directly influence how we answer these questions: 1) Self-Efficacy, 2) Locus of Control, and 3) Self-Esteem.  This isn’t a psychology class, but it is important we understand…

  • What makes a house a home?

    What makes a house a home?

    I find it interesting how the mind begins to construct concepts like a home over a lifetime of experiences, thoughts, and emotions.  A house isn’t a home, but a house can become a home. One can also have a home without a house. So, what is the difference between these two terms?  A home has…

  • When things go wrong

    When things go wrong

    Do you ever wonder why things turn out the way they do? I mean, is God really orchestrating every butterfly wing that flaps in Southeast Asia? Balancing all the details regarding our recent home building has been a challenge. So many things turned out differently than we desired or planned. I think some of this…

  • Others influencing me

    Others influencing me

    I am amazed at how often my words, thoughts, or actions are influenced by those around me.  In the 1960’and 1970’s Bandura researched how much of kid’s (and later adult’s) behavior, thoughts and attitudes was influenced by the social context in which they found themselves.  His research was very convincing, and I believed it, however…

  • Seeing insecurities for what they are

    Seeing insecurities for what they are

    Last week, I mentioned that insecurities are often the cause of why I don’t see things from God’s perspective.  For me, the most difficult obstacle to overcome in seeing a situation from God’s perspective is getting “me” out of the way. Most of us struggle with realizing how our own insecurities cause us to miss…

  • Seeing things from God’s perspective

    Seeing things from God’s perspective

    I am always surprised at how often followers of Christ pray more about God making their lives comfortable rather than making them people of good character. As I have heard the prayers at many churches and listened to thousands of individual prayers, clearly, most of what I hear is asking God for physical, relational, or…

  • Is God for real?

    Is God for real?

    In a recent blog, I mentioned that when I was 20 years old, I came to submit my life to God’s plan for my life with 51% believing and 49% doubting.  I made that decision with my heart, soul, and mind to submit to the rule of Christ for living and found freedom and forgiveness…

  • Another one bites the dust

    Another one bites the dust

    I have seen it play out so many times over the last fifty years.  Another godly, gifted, and impactful Christian leader confesses after being confronted with a moral lapse that disqualified him/her for ministry.  Too many gifted leaders suffer debilitating moral injuries after they achieve success by choosing to walk into a moral morass.  During…

  • Wandering and Identity

    Wandering and Identity

    As you read this, Mary Kay and I will have completed almost four weeks of wandering where we have changed locations eight times across six states. During this time we have had very gracious friends and family who have opened their homes and lives to us.  We have been blessed during the process. There have…