Recently, we returned from a trip, and I gained a lot of weight.  As I have written in the past, I can gain 5 pounds in a week and it will take me a month to lose it! This has happened most of my adult life. However, I find that fact intriguing, I suspect the…

Last week, I wrote on the value of a mentor and a reader thoughtfully asked me some probing questions about the practices of a mentor. As I processed her questions, I realized that I hadn’t talked much about the logistics of a mentoring relationship.  I am sure there are many good books on mentoring, I…

I had lunch with my mentor recently.  He is 10 years older and much wiser than I. Every time I am with him, I am inspired to be a better version of myself.  Over my lifetime, I have learned a lot about how to benefit from a mentor.  As I have written before, I have…

Because technology keeps me functioning well, I didn’t anticipate the challenge of setting up my new home office. I found it very difficult to keep my normal rhythms without my usual connectivity.  At one point my internet service provider literally cut the cable to my new house. It took me talking to five different agents…

I recently assessed a staff pastor from one of the larger churches in our nation.  He was being considered for another position and was very careful not to criticize the church he was leaving.  But he clearly had been working in a stressful environment with a high production mindset. He didn’t know that over the…

For the last few blogs I have written about transformation, The more assessment debriefs I do, the more I believe Psalm 139 correctly describes us as “fearfully and wonderfully made.”  We are so complex that one assessment instrument barely scratches the surface of explaining who God created us to be.  The instruments we use (TrueWiring®)…

In my previous blog, I discussed how many helping professionals give their lives to serving people for change, only to see few individuals transformed. Too often, change is temporary and superficial.  I want to continue with this theme.  Why do most of us want to change something in our lives but seem unable to actually…

Mary Kay and I have some dear friends who have spent the last 25 years investing in people.  I know of few people who have given more time, energy and financial resources to helping people (most often Christians) overcome obstacles, traumas and misfortune in their lives.  We met several weeks ago, and they discouragingly asked…

The recent attempted assassination of the Presidential candidate Donald Trump stirred up a variety of emotions and memories in me. My mind went back to memories and emotions from 60 years ago.  I was 9 to 16 years old from 1963 to 1970.  During these seven years, first JFK, then Malcolm X, next was MLK,…